Sometimes in life you just have to be your own cheerleader. Me and me have some serious discussions at times. When you fall off the ‘horse’ so to speak, it’s important to know when you need to give yourself the kick in the you-know-where and get back in the saddle.
There are bound to be those times when we all feel a bit down, having had our self-confidence shaken or could just use a nice little pat on the back to lift our spirits, and at times it may be something as simple as getting some extra rest, or treating ourselves to a special meal or movie to take a break.
I’ve been a firm believer in positive affirmations, gratitude lists, journalling (something I haven’t been doing since doing the two papers these past two years, but I guess in a way this can fill that space personally as well) and showing those around me how much I appreciate their presence in my life. At times it’s the smallest gesture of thanks that can really make someone’s day. Thinking about even the tone of our voice, tone of an email or message beforehand before hitting send might make all the difference to the person on the receiving end.
We all get wrapped up in our own daily routines, but keeping a good work-life balance is key to maintaining our mental, spiritual and in turn physical health ‘polished up.’ With so much swirling around, challenging our well-being through impacts of negativity whether that be politically, spiritually, professionally, via social communications or in basic interactions daily, a little tap on the shoulder mentally now and then to be at very least respectful with our words never hurts.
So, I’ve given myself the ‘talk’ again, about taking a few minutes to breathe. I used to say I was going to a little island, a mini vacay and make myself a nice bubble bath, light the candles, turn on the music and float away for a bit. Or even just a sit on a log in the bush for a half hour listening to the rush of the river and writing a poem or singing through my list of feel better songs.
Whatever your best medicine to pick yourself up, become inspired, feel rejuvenated, try not to put yourself last because I can tell you from experience, it will not only impact you but how your aura brushes off on those around you. It’s not easy to stay ‘up’ at all times, so many things factor in. Keeping the altitude of your attitude requires a desire to find the best within and recognize the best in others.
I’m thankful today that someone who cared enough to take the time reminded me that I matter, my health matters and in order to facilitate a better work – life balance it’s important to manage my time with as much TLC for myself as I give to others, for the good of all.
Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you’re being selfish. I remember something I heard Jillian Michaels the fitness expert say that stuck with me: “You cannot serve others if your own cup is empty.”
I’ll end with this quote from poet Rupi Kaur, who wrote: “You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to others.”
As my dear life friend Ted Richardson used to say, “Take good care.”
